February 8, 2012

Second Chances

We all know how life presents us with second chances to either correct past mistakes, for missed opportunities, or to enjoy a situation or relationship under different circumstances that are better suited and under more propitious timing. Proper timing is truly essential in this life, especially when it comes to lessons presented to us and our ability of learning from them!

A few days ago while traveling as a passenger on my commuter flight to Chicago O'Hare, I was presented with such a second chance for a missed opportunity. As we were flying over Lake Michigan on our approach to land on a misty-foggy winter morning, I caught sight of Chicago's skyline peeking through the mist as if it were a ghost city floating over a cloud. What a mystical sight it was indeed! "Too bad I don't have my camera out to take a picture of this ephemeral illusion," I thought.

We continued on our final descent past the northwest side of the downtown area, with the plane's landing gear already lowered in place, when suddenly we start climbing and retracting the wheels again in a fly-over aborted landing. "Too close for comfort with the landing airplane ahead of us," the Captain announced. Lo and behold, we ended up flying right over the city's tall buildings as we circled around to re-position ourselves in line over the lake... again!

This time I pulled out my cellphone's camera function and started clicking away. "I'm NOT missing out on this chance again!" See the photos attached below taken through my airplane window.

This whole episode served as a metaphor of a similar "second-chance" opportunity I'm currently facing in my life. I can only describe it at this moment as this....

I imagine the analogy of receiving a beautiful new "boomerang" as a birthday present. You admire & cherish it... but it's only after you've thrown it far away and see the marvel of it returning right back to you, that you truly recognize its true beauty & power, its true potential & purpose!











February 3, 2012

Rehab thru Compassion


My father, Roger Martinez Locke, was a classical music professor at the Conservatory and the University of Puerto Rico; a professional clarinetist, early-music ensemble conductor, lecturer, etc.... and was also a renaissance-man and walking encyclopedia of world history, culture & fine arts. He could speak fluently in Spanish, English & French, plus knew some Latin, Russian, Italian..... His normal every-day handwriting was in calligraphy, and he also had hobbies of photography, painting, cooking... and CYCLING! But above all his vast education, he was a great soul, a true humanitarian and a saint with a huge heart. It was from him that I learned the true meaning of christian charity, compassion & forgiveness. Here's an example and a true story:

When I was about 8 yrs old, he was an avid cyclist who self-taught himself to build racing bicycles from the frame up, including assembling all the wheels & components from parts he would order from catalogs in the US & Europe. There were no serious cycling shops on the island and NO internet back then. He had a small 10'x10' tool shack in the back of the house that served as his “taller de bicicletas”. By then, he had assembled a professional racing aqua-green-colored Benoto bike that was his proud jewel. We the kids had received for Christmas that year fancy Raleigh bicycles – mine was a beloved candy-apple red!

About 3-4 months later, someone broke into our property and stole ALL our priceless bicycles! I was heart-broken, as was my dad, especially because of all the hard work he had poured into building them. I'm sure you get the picture. Then the next day the police came to our house and said that they had caught a “barrio young delinquent” who was riding one of these very unusual fancy bikes throughout our blue-collar urban development (“urbanizacion”) and the adjacent poor-rural neighborhood, and that alerted them of something odd and amiss. They had been questioning (in PR that means "lightly" beating-up) him until he confessed to stealing these bikes from a (our) house. Hand-cuffed in the patrol car, he had directed the policemen to our house.

The police wanted my parents to press charges against them so they could lock him (and his collaborators) up, “as these hoodlums should”, they said. They didn't know they were talking to Professor Roger Martinez, who immediately said “hold your horses gentlemen! Bring him here, I want to talk to this kid”. My parents treated him with dignity and compassion! Dad offered him: “You like bikes? Then come to my workshop and I'll teach you"... Basically, my dad offered him to return the stolen bikes in exchange for coming daily for a few hours to his workshop and work with him in restoring the bikes!

This proved to be a true rehabilitation via compassion and trust! He did NOT disappoint my father!! He came through for my dad: the bikes were restored, he became an avid “student” and friend of my dad, and he also became a cyclist, later competing in local races in the sport. As a by-product, the word spread thru the neighborhoods, and our house (and family) was deemed a "sanctuary" protected from any "harm" from crime.

An act and leap of FAITH results in a win-win situation! :-) Compassion will never let you down!! It is thru this type of teach-by-example at HOME education I received from my parents, that I learned more of the values of Love, Peace, Truth, Non-Violence and Right Conduct... than from any other religious institution or church! In gratitude: Happy Birthday Mom (Feb 3rd) and Dad (RIP, Feb 15th)!!

Om Sai Ram. Namaste <3